Inside: Wondering what to buy from Grove Collaborative this summer? Here are my favorite things to get in our Grove subscription during the hot months!
We’re a little late in the season, but if you’re looking to squeeze the last drops from summer by filling your home with uplifting scents and spending hours outside while skipping those pesky bug bites, you’ve come to the right place.
What should I buy from Grove Collaborative?
If you don’t already know, Grove Collaborative is the bomb dot com. Natural products, good prices, delivered to your door every month (and free shipping for VIP’s). They have things that keep your home clean, things that make you clean, things that make your kids clean–ALL the cleaning things. And a lot more (it seems like they’re constantly adding to their product selection).
To sign up for Grove, you can use my link and get a FREE 5-piece gift set! Right now, that includes:
Free Mrs. Meyer’s Multi-Surface Spray
Free Mrs. Meyer’s Hand Soap
Free Mrs. Meyer’s Dish Soap
Free Grove Bubble Up Dish Brush
Free Grove Bubble Up Dish Dispenser
Free Grove Walnut Scrubber Sponges
Free Shipping with VIP Trial for 60 Days
(I use everything on that list and love them all!)
But if you’re a Grove newbie (or a seasoned veteran looking for new hings to try) you may be curious about what you should throw in your cart for your next order.
My Grove Collaborative Summer Favorites (for the Home)
I can’t speak for everyone, but these are things I personally use (most of which I have in my home right now) and love! We’ll start with my home-related favorites.
Mrs. Meyer’s Lavender Laundry Detergent
Let’s be real–I just love Mrs. Meyers. Period. I haven’t bought anything from this company that doesn’t smell great. And the laundry detergent is no exception.
We have to be careful in this house about scented laundry detergent (my husband and one of our kiddos get rashes from most scented detergents) but Mrs. Meyer’s gets the green light.
And we’re all mildly obsessed with lavender, so that’s what we get!
Honeysuckle Room Refresher Spray
This scent is AH.MAY.ZING! Seriously.
We also love the dish soap and hand wash in this scent. But the room refresher spray made the list because I love to make our living room and bedrooms smell like honeysuckle.
Plus with it being summer, the kids play outside A LOT. And let’s face it, when we all file back inside, the smell we bring with us isn’t always so great. A little spritz of honeysuckle freshens the house back up.
Aunt Fannie’s All-Purpose Pest Remedy
Because spiders and centipedes. Nuff said.
Seventh Generation Dish Soap – Lavender & Mint
Even though I love me some Mrs. Meyer’s, Seventh Generation also smells so darn good! So I alternate between brands and keep my senses happy.
But what I also love is that it isn’t just one of those plant-based products that smells good but doesn’t get the job done. It actually cuts through grease and gets our dishes nice and sparkly without crazy scrubbing.
Grove Soy Candle – Grapefruit & Lemon Peel
Soy candles for the win! Health wise, we know they’re better. But they don’t always smell as strong as traditional wax candles. Honestly, even the ones from Grove are more lightly scented than regular candles BUT I’ve gotten used to it. And now other candles kind of give me a headache.
And the citrus scent is uplifting for the mood and makes my brain think “clean and fresh.”
Counter Culture – Geranium
This stuff is just super cool.
I used to be an ambassador for a health and wellness company that really emphasized gut health. While I’m no longer doing the network marketing thing, I still am all about the microbiome. So when I saw this, I couldn’t NOT try it.
Most of the products we use focus on killing everything, but this product is a good way to replenish and promote beneficial microbes.
The geranium scent is super light, so I don’t necessarily use it for the way it makes our kitchen smell. But more for the added benefit of having those helpful little microorganisms hanging out on the counter.
Personal Care Summer Favorites from Grove
So in addition to home-related goods, Grove also has a ton of awesome personal care products. These are my favorites for the summer time.
Aunt Fannie’s Kids Mosquito Repellent Spray
Oh the bugs. Especially mosquitoes.
I don’t know what it is about us, but mosquitoes love to take as many nibbles of our little family as they possibly can while we’re outdoors. And all of us welt up pretty badly. Back in the day, I toughed it out. Put some clear nail polish on it to keep from digging at it, and I was good.
But I hate seeing those angry red bumps all over my babes’ legs. So when I saw that Grove had Aunt Fannie’s, I was all over it.
It smells really nice! I will say that it’s a little oily, so after we spray it on the kids, we rub it in a tad to disperse it evenly. But most importantly, it works.
Smarty Pits Sensitive Aluminum-Free Deodorant
Obviously during summer, we need a good, reliable deodorant.
I’ve been using this one for almost a year now while also trying a couple other brands, and this one is my favorite by far. It ticks all the boxes:
makes sure I smell good
doesn’t irritate my sensitive pits
So it’s a keeper.
Rooted Beauty Facial Towlettes
These were originally a free gift in one of my orders, but I fell in love with them, so I’ve ordered them twice now. Granted, I’m not one to usually use facial wipes at night, so I don’t have much to compare them to.
But the smell awesome, make my face nice and smooth, and hydrate it too. Plus they take my makeup off super easily. I don’t wear a ton anyway (just concealer under my eyes, powder, eyeliner, mascara and the very occasional eye shadow), but it’s nice to be able to just wipe gently to get it off instead of scrubbing with soap and water.
And during summer, they com in handy to freshen up my face after coming inside on a hot day.
Grove Mint & Argan Oil Lip Balm
This was my very first free gift included in an order, and I still love it. And my kids must love it too because they steal it all the time.
It smells good (kind of a big deal for me since I’ve mentioned the scent on pretty much everything so far) and makes my lips silky smooth and protected from dry air in the winter too.
Inside: Thinking of becoming a stay-at-home mom? Or maybe you already are one and are looking for ways to save money. Either way, these are 7 simple tips I’ve learned to stretch your dollar while living on income.
Having our entire family home has been a dream of mine for quite some time. But before I was able to start homeschooling and before my husband got a work-from-home job, the first step was for me to become a stay-at-home mom.
But we were used to my income, so in some ways the transition was scary. Even after putting in my notice, we wavered back and forth on whether or not we’d made the right decision.
It’s been a few years now, and looking back, I’m so glad we pushed through our fears and made that leap. it’s been SO WORTH IT, and our initial worries about finances now seem silly.
How do-able is living one income?
Let’s just say it’s WAY less stressful than what I’d thought.
And not because our income is some astronomical sum of money! We’re average. Yet, living on one income hasn’t been impossible. Actually, we don’t even miss my paycheck! (There are actually a lot of expenses that were completely cut from the monthly budget because I quit my job.)
So if becoming a stay-at-home mom is something that’s on your heart, it’s definitely worth looking into!
7 Tips for Living on One Income
If you’d rather watch it in video-form, check it out on our YouTube channel!
Set a Budget
This is probably the #1 tip on all the lists. And while it may seem obvious, it’s something I resisted for quite a while. OR we’d set a budget to just completely ignore it.
We’re still ironing out details of our budget and tweaking where necessary, but the main point is to:
know your set bills and then
prioritize your other expenses and goals within what’s left over.
And then stick to it! (More on that in a minute.)
Cut Back Where You Can
What big or set expenses do you have that you could cut back on?
For example, when I first became a stay-at-home mom, we sold my husband’s car. The car itself was paid for, but selling it meant that we not only got a few thousand dollars to put into savings but also that our monthly insurance bill was cut down significantly. It was a way for us to ease into the transition of having only one income.
So where could you cut?
Cell phones? We switched carriers. Medical insurance? Shop around, and see what you can find. Cable? Drop the TV services but keep the internet, and use a service like Netflix, Hulu, or Amazon Prime (use that link to check out their 30-day free trial).
There are lots of ways to cut back and save.
Learn to be Price Savvy
Beyond those set expenses, you can stretch your dollar on those day-to-day purchases too.
Growing up, I never understood how my mom knew the price of everything, everywhere. But she always knew where an item could be found for the lowest price. We could be in Walmart, but she’d shrug and say, “meh, I can get it for cheaper at…”
Now I understand. As a mother managing a home, it’s wise to know how to always get the best bang for your buck.
It should be said: this is a process. When I first became a stay-at-home mom, I NEVER did this. We bought pretty much everything at ALDI and Walmart. Period.
But now, I know we can get certain things cheaper by buying them in bulk on Amazon and having them delivered to our door. And we can find natural cleaning products, hygiene items, and other household-related stuff for great prices on Grove.
It takes time and may seem insignificant. Like why does an 80 cent difference matter? But all those dollars and cents add up throughout the month and the year. It may be extra gas money, a student loan bill, some extra cash for savings, or it could even go toward paying off your home faster.
It just depends on where you make your money go.
What was I even doing before Once Upon a Child?
With 4 kids, we CANNOT be buying everything brand new. Sure, I also shop sales and clearance. But buying at stores like Once Upon a Child means paying yard sale prices while getting name-brand items (sometimes with the tags still on them)!
Speaking of yard sales, our family loves those too! It just takes a little more work to find the things you actually need.
WORD OF CAUTION: resist the urge to buy all the things just because you found them for a “good deal.” I have been SO GUILTY of this! It’s rewarding in the moment, but a little less satisfying when you get it all home and realize you just added more clutter to your life instead of saving on the family budget.
Reward Your Brain Without Splurging
On that train of thought (while also doubling back to the whole “staying on budget” thing I mentioned above), your brain totally benefits from positive rewards. And while splurging and excessive spending is not-so-great for the budget, there IS a way to get that reward without going broke (and while actually helping you reach your financial goals).
For more on that, check out this post:
Meal planning can save SO MUCH MONEY in the monthly budget. I can’t even begin to tell you how much funds and time we wasted before I started planning our meals.
If you’re looking for a simple way to plan your family’s meals (and a sample plan), you can check out my post on how I meal plan here:
Use Those Leftovers
it had to be said. In the same vein as meal planning, using leftovers has really saved us money and kept us from wasting so much food. Does some stuff still go uneaten? Yepp. But not NEARLY as much as what we used to waste.
On average, our leftovers can supply about 80% of our family’s lunches and one dinner every week. Of course, I learned from my mom when it comes to cooking for an army. So if you don’t make as much food as I do, it won’t go quite as far. But even one dinner a week would be worth it!
Are you considering becoming a stay-at-home mom? Comment below or shoot me an email (email@example.com) to tell me your biggest concern. I’d love to hear from you and help where I can!
Inside: Help your kids get into simple morning and evening routines
It’s all fun and games until I’m running around like a headless chicken, wishing past me had made life easier on present me. Wishing my kids remembered to put their pants in the hamper without a reminder every morning. Wishing I had an extra set of hands and an army general barking orders so I didn’t have to.
Sometimes I’m a slow learner (or maybe just hard-headed). There’s something about the idea of a set routine that makes me want to rebel, even though I know I need it.
But it became obvious that set, easy-to-follow morning and nightly routines weren’t just things that I needed. My kids needed them even more.
When I gave them structured routines (and made them self-directed), it made life so much simpler.
Our Morning & Nightly Routines
Without a simple flow to follow, our mornings can get hectic, and our nights are lacking. Kids (at least mine) truly operate best when they know what to expect. And I’m the most productive when I have a set time for getting important things done.
So here’s what we do.
What we need from our morning routine:
easy to follow
The best course of action for me is waking up early. I know it’s not for everyone. Some days, it’s not even for me. But the mornings when I get up sometime between 4:30 and 5:30 are the mornings that go the smoothest and when I feel the most accomplished.
When I can, I like to head straight downstairs, drink a bottle of water, throw some laundry into the washer, get my essential oils going in the diffuser, and have Bible time. Doing those 4 things right off the bat start my day on the right foot.
Next I shower and get myself dressed and ready. If I stay in pajamas or just throw on some sweats, I’m more likely to have a lazy day. Even though that’s needed sometimes, on the typical day, it’s best for me to get myself together.
For the Kids
After that, I wake up the kids and help them get ready/keep them on track.
When everyone is fully ready, we head downstairs together, and I make breakfast.
HOWEVER, this part of our routine will be changing as our time with public school comes to an end.
NOW I’ll head downstairs after getting the baby ready and fix breakfast while everyone else finishes getting ready and doing their morning chores (mainly making their beds, putting clothes in the hamper, and tidying up anything out of place). While chores are happening, I’ll play some worship music in the background to get their day started right.
After breakfast, I’ll do a quick clean-up. Then we’ll jump right in to our homeschooling schedule, which starts with worship, calendar, and Bible before digging into our morning basket then our curriculum.
What we need from our nighttime routine:
a good wrap-up to our day
easy to follow
For the Kids
In the evenings after we spend some time together as a family, we let the kids sink into some wind-down activities while they each have their turn taking a bath. Of course, at this point, they also put on jammies, comb their hair, and brush their teeth.
When everyone has had a bath, they all do a sweep of the house, making sure any toys and books they’ve had out are put away.
Before bed, everyone has to go potty. Then we snuggle in for a story, sing “Jesus Loves Me” together, talk to God, do kisses and hugs, and they’re off to sleep. (Other than our baby Aspen, who stays up with me for a while.)
Of course, all of that is best-case-scenario. There are nights when there’s a glitch in the system, and someone has trouble going to bed. But generally speaking, that’s the routine.
During all of the kids’ nightly kerfuffle, I’m either giving them the baths OR Chris is doing baths while I clean up the kitchen/do dishes from dinner. Hubby and I also do a quick nightly cleanup where we throw away any trash and pick up any loose ends.
After the kids are in bed, Chris and I have some unwind time. We usually veg out on some YouTube videos, play a game, or just hang out for a while.
I finish my night with working on blog posts, writing emails, editing YouTube videos, creating printables and all of the other things that go into running this site and our channel. I love to go to sleep early (we’re talking like 8 pm), BUT I usually try to stay up until around 9 or 10 to get a nice work session in.
Routines & Learned Responsibility
Those routines are just what work best for us. Regardless, figure out what that flow looks like for YOUR family.
The main point is to get routines down and help your kids learn them. Doing so means your children learn another layer of responsibility and maturity. Plus you’re setting them up for a lifetime of positive and healthy routines.
I also found that letting my kids be in control of their own routine gave them a sense of accomplishment and lessened the amount of early morning/nightly whining that was usually involved in our day.
Keeping it All Straight (Without Constant Prompting)
Even if your child is too young to read, they’ll likely do well with visual cues. That’s why I created cue cards for my kids, along with a checklist to boost that sense of accomplishment as they mark off each task.
And I want to share them with you.
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Inside: My best tip for cutting out spontaneous spending, staying on budget and SAVING while living on one income
Living on one income is totally possible, even if that income isn’t above average. But doing it well does require a little wisdom and self-control.
This isn’t a post about tips for living on one income . For that, stay tuned over on the YouTube channel. This post is for anyone (like me) who has a hard time cutting extra spending to stay on budget and save up for bigger goals.
Staying On Budget while Living on One Income
I am by no means a financial advisor. But what I AM is a woman who’s been running a home on one income for several years. Sometimes well. Sometimes not so well.
Unfortunately, I’ve had my fair share of experiences that taught me (the hard way) that I wasn’t quite as good at staying on budget as what I thought. Over the years I’ve had to face the cold, hard truth that I actually have a tendency to blow through money like nobody’s business when I’m not careful.
The Little Stuff
Some Chick-fil-a here. A new outfit for the baby there. Or how about a new stack of books to strategically stuff into our already-packed shelves?
The majority of the purchases that I make are small enough that I think, “meh, it won’t hurt. No bid deal!” But as you know, when you throw all those purchases that aren’t a “big deal” together, you’ve got a whole new monster on your hands.
We once tallied up our spending from eating out. To our complete shock, in one week, we spent over $300. Yes, read it again. THREE HUNDRED DOLLARS. In one week. That could have gotten me a new dishwasher on sale. Ouch.
The Big Stuff
The other type of purchase (that I make less frequently) is the large but justifiable purchase. I tell myself:
That would make our homeschool better! Or, that would really help me be a better blogger. Or, I don’t normally splurge. Maybe it would be okay as long as I don’t do it again for a while.
And all of those things may be the case. But as any mom on a budget knows, you have to prioritize.
(That’s not the tip, by the way.)
Why We Keep Spending
We’ve all been told what to do. But there’s something about that immediate reward that makes splurging a little feel worth it in the short term. (But don’t worry. Later we’ll have a talk about how we “really need to get our spending on track” to make ourselves feel better and more responsible.) So even though we know what we need to do, that doesn’t always help in the moment.
What do we do then? How do we counteract that little boost of happiness that we get when we spend?
Let’s say you find yourself wanting some coffee before you head home after your grocery run. You managed to make it out of the house alone, and a quick trip to the local coffee spot would be the cherry on top of a successful shopping trip.
BUT you know you’ve already been kind of loose with you’re spending recently. Sure, you have enough. But there are better things that money COULD be spent on if you’d buckle down.
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Here’s what you do. Stop by somewhere peaceful where you can still get a few extra minutes of alone time. Then move the money you would have just spent on coffee from your checking to your savings account.
(And if you really want coffee, start making it at home. I really enjoy doing it with a French press. It feels fancy and sophisticated but costs way less than making a pit stop at my favorite coffee joint.)
Give Your Brain What It Wants
What did the above scenario do? It help you cut spending by rewarding your brain in ways that help your family’s financial goals instead of working against them. Let me explain.
It’s not enough to just resist unhealthy spending habits. You have to replace them with something better that gives you a sense of accomplishment.
And it’s not a false one. You’re truly accomplishing your goals, little by little. Every transfer gets you closer. The more positive choices you make, the more you save. The more you save, the easier it is to be in control of your finances.
A quick note:: Only transfer funds if you were truly willing to make the purchase. The reward isn’t really there if the temptation (or the available cash) wasn’t really there.
Dealing With Bank Stipulations
If your bank limits the amount of transfers you can do in one month, create a note in your phone to keep track of your weekly positive choices. Every time you resist the temptation to purchase something unnecessary, type what it was and the amount into your phone. At the end of each week, transfer the entire amount together. That way, you only have 4-5 transfers per month (which should make the cut for pretty much any bank).
This simple but effective way to handle impulse buys:
cuts back on spending
helps you save & work toward your financial vision for your family
What’s your best tip for staying on budget? Share it with others by commenting below!
Until next time,
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Inside: a simple family meal planning method that’s making my life 10x easier
It’s 3 pm. About time to start prepping dinner.
I check my current meal planning method (a little chalkboard hanger in our kitchen that I often forget to update). Aaaaand that’s when I realize I should have thrown the chicken into the crockpot at NOON.
But I didn’t. And it’s still frozen.
It might not be such a big deal, but I’ve already forgotten the same meal twice this week and have ran out of other options. I run to check the cabinets for any meal I can throw together that won’t require meat (since it’s all frozen), but sadly we’re all out of pasta sauce. And our fridge is looking a little bare.
So we order pizza. Or go to Taco Bell. EVEN THOUGH we keep promising to stop eating out so much.
I wish this was a rare occurrence, but sadly, it’s not.
So I’m trying something new.
Why Meal Plan?
Let’s back up a hot second. Because before the cute (but for me, useless) chalkboard method, I DIDN’T MEAL PLAN AT ALL. If you think I sound like a hot mess now, hold my coffee because you haven’t seen anything yet.
I would just wing it. At the grocery store. At meal time. And here’s what would happen:
we wasted money on food like nobody’s business
some nights, I wouldn’t get dinner on the table until 7
we bought too much produce, and it would spoil
I’d end up not having everything I needed to make whatever meal I came up with for the day, so I’d have to make mini trips to the store throughout the week
did I mention we wasted A LOT of money?
So when I tell you I NEED a meal plan, believe me. I’m sure some people can function without one. My mom is one of those people. But while I like to wing it, I thrive within the structure of a well-thought-out (but flexible) plan.
The Right Fit
Not all meal planning methods are created equal. And what works best for your family may not work for mine.
So while there are lots of moms who do well with a simple chalkboard, that just doesn’t cut it for this procrastinator momma. I need something more fluid that can easily be switched around when things don’t go to plan.
Plus, when I’d sit down to write out the weekly plan, I’d spend way too much time trying to remember our staple meals while also not repeating the same 7 every week.
A Simple Meal Planning Method for families
So what’s the new meal plan method I’m using?
How it Works
It sounds so simple because it is.
In this house, we have our staple meals (tried and true that I know everyone will mostly eat), and I occasionally whip up a random recipe to try out.
And that’s the real simplicity of this method. Instead of always writing out what we’ll be eating (and then erasing and rewriting when I inevitably have to switch things around), I now use my own pre-printed meal magnets and just arrange them as I decide what we’ll be eating.
Instead of hanging in a spot of our kitchen where I’m prone to forget it, our new meal plan is on our fridge, directly in my face while I get the kids breakfast, snacks, and lunch, giving me reminders throughout the day leading up to dinner. So it’s way less likely (though not impossible) that our meat will be frozen when it should already be cooking.
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get it for free!
Since I made myself these cards, I thought I’d share them with you too. The printable includes both a blank sheet that you can write your own meal staples on as well as my sheet full of our family’s favorites. To download and print, subscribe below(unsubscribe at any time. It’s NEVER my goal to hold people hostage on my email list if my content isn’t valuable for them):
You can print it either on cardstock or use plain paper then laminate. Amazon has tiny magnets for the back of your cards here. And the magnetic fridge calendar that I use is this one, also available on Amazon.
Do you meal plan? If so, what’s your current method? I’d love to hear from you!
Until next time,
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Inside: Wanting to maintain a tidy space but having trouble feeling motivated to keep it that way? Try these 6 tips!
I’m a recovering mess-ignorer.
It’s true. I was a card-carrying member of Cleaning Haters Anonymous. Someone who used to walk right by the same mess multiple times a day before deciding it was time to take care of it.
The mom who would be frantic in the morning because I needed to throw the stuff from yesterday’s wash into the dryer so that my kids would have clean pants (…because I’d neglected to get to it the day before).
What I’m trying to say is, I understand.
This post isn’t coming from a neat-freak (no offense intended) who was born with a microfiber cloth in her hand.
I used to abhor cleaning. It’s still not my favorite thing (mainly because it takes time away from my favorite things), but I actually kind of like it now.
6 Ways to Find Cleaning Motivation
Here are some big steps to help you on your journey in the mess-ignorer recovery program.
Shine Some Light on the Situation
As soon as it’s light outside, my curtains come open. There’s just something about the sun that gives me a boost of energy and instantly lifts my mood.
But if I keep the curtains closed in the morning, I’m more lethargic and slow to get things taken care of.
Simple, but effective.
Another easy mood boost comes from whatever scent is in the air.
In the morning, I like to diffuse citrus scents (like grapefruit, orange, and lemon) because they energize me and give off an aroma that my brain associates with cleaning.
Use Products You love
If I don’t like how something smells or it’s not easy to clean with, chances are, I’m going to avoid using it.
For me, a cleaning product has to tick these boxes:
Not full of garbage
Easy to use
Doesn’t cost me an arm and a leg
If it does all those things, I’m pretty much sold. Almost all of my favorites can be found on Grove collaborative, meaning they also get shipped to my door every month.
If you want to try it out, you can use my code for a FREE 5-Piece Mrs. Meyers gift set!
Keep It Simple
We often WAY over-complicate the cleaning process. Like did the ancient women of old have a cleaning schedule with 5,042 items that they needed to check off weekly? No. Do you need a cleaning schedule? No.
I used to follow one. (I even made one over on my old blog that other moms could use… *cue eye roll*)
But all that jazz is just really unnecessary.
If you want to know more about what I do now instead, click here:
Start With the Most Gratifying Tasks
If you can just get enough motivation to start AND you use it to do the thing that will bring you the right mental reward, it’ll be easier to keep the ball rolling.
For example, once I do my dishes and wipe out my sink, I love the way it looks. But it’s dampened by the fact that there are crumbs and a splotch of jam on the counter. So then I wipe those down. While I’m doing that, I notice some marks on the cabinet. So I tackle that. But now the whole kitchen is clean except for the grass on the floor, so I sweep that. And if I sweep in the kitchen, I might as well go do the dining room and living room too….
And it just keeps going.
So find the motivation to start with something that you know will bring you some satisfaction, and then roll with it.
Delegate Where Possible
Early on in this stay-at-home mom gig, I felt like I had to do it all myself. This was what I signed up for. I had wanted my job to be taking care of the kids and the home. That’s why I quit my 9-5.
So if I wasn’t able to do it all, I suddenly felt like I was failing at my job.
Which happened daily.
But if my husband tried to step in and help, I wouldn’t let him. I’d even get upset and apologize because somewhere there was kink in my brain making me think I was letting my family down. I wasn’t “good enough” at being a stay-at-home mom.
The weight of feeling like I had to do it all was crushing.
No one wants to be responsible for the cleanliness of the entire home while everyone else gets to make all the messes. It’s hard to find motivation when you’re in a situation like that.
With that being said, do I now find a lot of satisfaction in serving my loved ones and tending to the responsibilities of our home? Sure do!
BUT that doesn’t mean I have to go it alone. My husband is great at doing the things that slip through the cracks for me at the end of the day (and I let him now). And my kids are being taught about responsibility and being members of a team by taking care of the chores I’ve delegated to them.
This isn’t a one-woman show. If it was, there’d be a lot less accomplished in the day.
How do you stay inspired and motivated to keep up with housework? Leave your tips in the comments!
Inside: The reasons why a cleaning schedule just doesn’t work for our home and what we do instead.
Not long ago I was the one searching for cleaning schedules to help keep my home tidy. I tried all the things. Room-by-room. Task-by-task. A checklist for monthly, seasonal, and yearly items. You name it, I was trying to juggle it.
I made a chart, hung it on the fridge, and tried my best to stay on top of things. But somehow, it never seemed like there were enough hours in the day with all the other duties I had to fill.
Like, seriously, who WERE these super people who were able to get all this stuff done?
I was about to have baby #4 and thought I NEEDED to get the hang of a cleaning schedule in order to keep our house from becoming a total and complete train wreck.
Thankfully, I was wrong.
After trying to stick to my schedule for months after our son was born, I threw in the towel on cleaning schedules. And opted for a simpler approach (that was WAY less stressful for the season I was in).
A Simple 2-Part Cleaning Method
There are 2 main ways our home gets clean and stays clean:
With a daily cleansing power hour and
With simple routines to help KEEP our home clean.
Every day, I have one main burst of cleansing energy. This is the time when I do all the little things throughout the house that are bugging me. Any little loose ends that need to be taken care of are tied up. We’ll talk about that more in a minute.
Then we all have smaller routines throughout the day to keep the house from getting unmanageable and make sure everyone is doing their part to help.
It’s simple, easy to follow, and may just work better for your home if the cleaning schedules aren’t cutting it.
Morning Power Hour
So at some point every morning (either before or after homeschool time, depending on the day), I would quickly go throughout the house, tidying anything I saw out of order. Picking up stray clothes that need to go into a laundry bin, wiping down counters, carrying things upstairs, sweeping floors, cleaning toilets, clearing clutter off the mantle, dusting.
You name it. Whatever catches my eye and needs to be done, I do it.
It’s truly amazing how much can get accomplished in that time. Even if your time spent cleaning doesn’t end up totaling an entire hour, spend as much time as you can accomplishing as much as you can.
I usually already have a running mental list of things that need to happen when I get a minute, just because they’re often things that have already been on my mind. For example, while breastfeeding my son, I’ll see things on our bookshelf that need straightened, mail on the piano that needs to go to our office, and that the rug needs to be vacuumed.
So as soon as power hour drops, I’m ready to get at it.
Simple Built-In Routines
So other than power hour, I have simple things built into my day that help me stay on top of housework. For example, I do dishes at pretty much the same spot in our daily routine, every day. And every morning before I wake the kids up, I throw in a new load of laundry.
My husband and kids have things to get done, too. After everyone is dressed in the morning, we all make beds. When my kids are done playing in a room, they have to pick up their toys before they move on to a new activity. Every evening, my husband takes out the trash if it’s full.
These are all just little ways to keep the mess from piling up and keep our home running smoothly.
No cleaning schedule needed.
When Tasks Get Overlooked
With a cleaning schedule, if I ended up NOT having time to get something done, it was a big deal. Either it was left untouched until the next week rolled around OR my to-do list for the next day got THAT MUCH LONGER. Neither of those is a good option.
But with this method, if something doesn’t get done, it just goes to the top of my mental list (or note in my phone) for the next day. No biggie.
Easing the Burden of Cleaning Schedule Stress
Maintaining our homes this way can come a little more naturally to us and may also be less stressful. Sometimes we over-complicate things in our quest to find solutions for our time management problems.
It’s not possible to get everything done in a day, and some cleaning schedules seem to heap on the burdens. So it’s often easier to get more done by intuitively checking off the things we SEE rather than incessantly checking a list and struggling to stay on track.
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